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October 2026
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essays and honest questions
Thoughts on faith, sexuality, and the road in between.
October 2026
Can Christians identify as gay? What identity means
Yes, it's a matter of personal context and conscience. Here's what “identity” means, what the word gay can carry, and why faithful Christians land in different places.
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October 2026
Does Side B mean you have to be celibate?
No. Side B doesn't require every gay or lesbian Christian to be celibate for life. Here's where the misconception comes from, what Paul says about marriage and singleness, and the real paths open.
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October 2026
How to love a gay friend well, and why “love the sinner, hate the sin” falls apart
“Love the sinner, hate the sin” sounds like Scripture, but it isn't, and it usually lands badly. Here's where the phrase comes from, why it falls apart, and what loving a gay friend well looks like instead.
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September 2026
You grew up in church and left. Can you come back?
Yes, and most people who've left church over LGBT-related issues are still open to coming back someday. Here's what a return requires, and what it doesn't.
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September 2026
Your child came out and you hold a traditional faith. Now what?
Your child came out, and you hold a traditional faith. How you respond now matters more than having your theology fully sorted out. Here's what that looks like, whether that first conversation went well or not.
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August 2026
Is there a place for gay Christians in the church?
Yes, there's a place for gay and lesbian Christians in the church, without qualification. Here's why so many haven't experienced that in practice, and what's true underneath the gap.
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August 2026
Side A vs Side B: an honest comparison
Side A affirms same-sex marriage. Side B holds the traditional sexual ethic while fully welcoming gay and lesbian people. Here's an honest look at where the two positions agree, and where they differ.
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July 2026
What is Side B Christianity?
Side B holds that a person can be gay, lesbian, or bisexual and keep the historic Christian teaching on marriage, without it disqualifying them from full belonging. Here's what that means, and what it doesn't.
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June 2026
Can you be gay and Christian?
Yes. If you're gay and you love Jesus, you are not disqualified from following him. Here's where that answer comes from, and what it asks of you.
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